I had the same problem on a Sierra system. I run:
which -a apachectl
outputted:
/usr/sbin/apachectl
/usr/local/bin/apachectl
to stop the apache by apple version: sudo /usr/sbin/apachectl stop
To see the running processes: ps aux | grep httpd
Outputted:
ibook 1359 0,0 0,0 2432804 768 s000 S+ 4:13pm 0:00.00 grep httpd
_www 1014 0,0 0,0 2479412 836 ?? S 3:57pm 0:00.00
/usr/sbin/httpd -k restart
root 1013 0,0 0,1 2479668 7544 ?? Ss 3:57pm 0:00.12 /usr/sbin/httpd -k restart
So to stop apache by apple: sudo /usr/sbin/httpd -k stop
And to check if it occurred: ps aux | grep httpd
Outputted:
ibok 1375 0,0 0,0 2432804 776 s000 S+ 4:14pm 0:00.00 grep httpd
To start the brew apache:
sudo /usr/local/bin/apachectl start
And to check if it's on: ps aux | grep httpd
outputted:
ibook 1390 0,0 0,0 2432804 768 s000 S+ 4:14pm 0:00.00 grep httpd
_www 1387 0,0 0,0 2652596 780 ?? S 4:14pm 0:00.00 /usr/local/opt/httpd/bin/httpd -k start
_www 1386 0,0 0,0 2652596 752 ?? S 4:14pm 0:00.00 /usr/local/opt/httpd/bin/httpd -k start
_www 1385 0,0 0,0 2652596 756 ?? S 4:14pm 0:00.00 /usr/local/opt/httpd/bin/httpd -k start
_www 1384 0,0 0,0 2652596 756 ?? S 4:14pm 0:00.00 /usr/local/opt/httpd/bin/httpd -k start
_www 1383 0,0 0,0 2652596 744 ?? S 4:14pm 0:00.00 /usr/local/opt/httpd/bin/httpd -k start
root 1382 0,0 0,1 2652596 10976 ?? Ss 4:14pm 0:00.03 /usr/local/opt/httpd/bin/httpd -k start
To see the running version of apache: httpd -V
that outputted:
Server version: Apache/2.4.28 (Unix)
Server built: Oct 29 2017 19:28:54
Server's Module Magic Number: 20120211:68
Server loaded: APR 1.5.2, APR-UTIL 1.5.4
Compiled using: APR 1.5.2, APR-UTIL 1.5.4
Architecture: 64-bit
Server MPM: prefork
threaded: no
forked: yes (variable process count)
Server compiled with....
-D APR_HAS_SENDFILE
-D APR_HAS_MMAP
-D APR_HAVE_IPV6 (IPv4-mapped addresses enabled)
-D APR_USE_FLOCK_SERIALIZE
-D APR_USE_PTHREAD_SERIALIZE
-D SINGLE_LISTEN_UNSERIALIZED_ACCEPT
-D APR_HAS_OTHER_CHILD
-D AP_HAVE_RELIABLE_PIPED_LOGS
-D DYNAMIC_MODULE_LIMIT=256
-D HTTPD_ROOT="/usr"
-D SUEXEC_BIN="/usr/bin/suexec"
-D DEFAULT_PIDLOG="/private/var/run/httpd.pid"
-D DEFAULT_SCOREBOARD="logs/apache_runtime_status"
-D DEFAULT_ERRORLOG="logs/error_log"
-D AP_TYPES_CONFIG_FILE="/private/etc/apache2/mime.types"
-D SERVER_CONFIG_FILE="/private/etc/apache2/httpd.conf"
And that was the APPLE installed version (2.4.28) again! In stead of the brew 2.4.38.
I recognize the frustration.
But it turns out that the pages in the localhost url are served by the new apache!
To show the OSX apache version:
Terminal input: /usr/sbin/apachectl -v
Server version: Apache/2.4.28 (Unix)
Server built: Oct 29 2017 19:28:54
And to see the brew version:
Terminal input: /usr/local/bin/apachectl -v
Server version: Apache/2.4.38 (Unix)
Server built: Feb 10 2019 02:49:25
And for php:
Just type in terminal : which -a php
My mac shows:
/usr/bin/php
/usr/local/bin/php
And to show the php versions just use this:
Terminal input: /usr/bin/php -v
shows the OSX build in version:
PHP 5.6.30 (cli) (built: Oct 29 2017 20:30:32)
Copyright © 1997-2016 The PHP Group
Zend Engine v2.6.0, Copyright © 1998-2016 Zend Technologies
And terminal input: /usr/local/bin/php -v
Will show the brew version:
PHP 7.3.2 (cli) (built: Feb 14 2019 10:09:47) ( NTS )
Copyright © 1997-2018 The PHP Group
Zend Engine v3.3.2, Copyright © 1998-2018 Zend Technologies
with Zend OPcache v7.3.2, Copyright © 1999-2018, by Zend Technologies