My wife bought a new iPhone 8 and her text alerts work for everyone in her contacts except me. I've checked the phone, and hide alerts is not activated, and do not disturb is not turned on. There are no moon icon's anywhere to disable. When I text her, the little dot next to the message in her message list isn't there to signify a new text. We've tried switching on the DND and then turning it off, switching on hide alerts for that conversation only and then turning it off. Powered the phone off and on, deleted and re-added my contact to her contacts - nothing works. Any suggestions?
Im sure you checked to make sure you are not blocked by going to Phone app, Recents, finding your number then scrolling down to see Block or unBlock this number. I do not know very much about Wi-Fi Calling, but check to see it that is on. Then check Messages to see if iMessages is on, because it could be set to use your Apple ID that you can be reached at. Or if you are in a separate list of people not in the contacts list and being filtered. I also just now noticed a setting in Messages Audio Messages with option of Raise to Listen and Expire after 2min or 30days. Then check Messenger if she has it.