Almost all of my email calendar invites appear in my non-Apple email that eventually gets routed and delivered to Gmail and by me to my Google Calendar, however, for some individuals, none of their invitations come through email but instead show up in iCal as transient popup notifications, despite their inviting me with my email address.
I have a hypothesis that when they invite me using the same email address of my Apple ID and they are on some Apple device such as a laptop or iPhone, that Apple sees the email and matches it to my Apple ID and decides to short circuit the email invite (never sending it) and instead just populate directly to my iCal. I haven't tested this hypothesis because I think it would involve asking one of the few people I have this difficulty with to take the action and did not want to impose upon them if I could avoid it.
Does this hypothesis make sense, or if not, what else could be going on here and how can I stop this from happening? My end goal here is that I get an email invite in all cases and never have my iCal automatically pre-populate. My reason for this desire is that I do not use iCal but instead use Google Calendar and I end up missing these invites all together. Maybe it is as simple as just changing the email address for my Apple ID to be an address that I never get calendar invites for?