In what directory on OS X are the sound files located for the alert tones in Messages and in FaceTime? I'm not talking about the alert sounds in System Preferences; I mean the ones that are also on iOS—like Aurora, Bamboo, Chord, etc.—in the list in this screenshot:
Alerts are located at
If you're looking to add your own - you can't.... or rather you can but they will be ignored.
I've found the best method to add my own is to replace one of the existing sounds with one of my own, renamed to match.
System alerts - Sosumi etc - are in
User sounds are in