I was told I could monitor my 13 year old daughter's messages on an old iPhone through Wi-Fi. I was told to set up message on the phone with her Apple ID and password.

My question is will Apple send her an email asking her to allow the messages to be sent to my phone? I know they send one telling her someone accessed her account. If they only send one saying someone signed into her account that's ok.

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    – grg
    Apr 5, 2015 at 11:20
  • It is possible that if you have the monitoring device running with messages using the same id that in some cases where you have messages open they will be marked as read before your daughter sees them and may not even get an alert.
    – markhunte
    Apr 5, 2015 at 13:12
  • Not a answer to your question, but some Parenting experience sharing. I know she is only 13, but as a Parent I would tell her that I can see her messages. This is to keep trust and open communication, and to avoid been very surprised what you read. @Patrix feel free to delete this comment.
    – Ruskes
    Apr 5, 2015 at 16:17
  • I know I should tell her I see her text but if I do she will just use a texting app a friends phone or somethin. Kids are smart they will find a way to do what they want.
    – lisa
    Apr 5, 2015 at 22:34

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It will send an email telling her iMessage has been enabled on a device. But there's no grant/deny option, it's just an informational email.

  • Thank you very much! Can someone walk me through the process of setting up the old iPhone to recieve her messages? I know nothing about iphones
    – lisa
    Apr 5, 2015 at 12:21
  • Go into settings, messages, enable iMessage and enter the AppleID Apr 5, 2015 at 12:24

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