How to pair Apple TV (2nd gen) without a remote and without home sharing turned on?
I decided to answer my own question after 2 hours of figuring out ways around the problem that "If home sharing is not turned on, apple TV cannot be controlled with an ios device".
Note that I am talking about a 2nd gen apple TV. A 3rd gen can be worked around by http://support.apple.com/kb/HT5900?viewlocale=en_US&locale=en_US
You actually can get the 2nd gen synced with your ios, a little sneaky but it is easily managable.
Here is what you do...